Adjusting to a new school can be a problem for a big number of children. The pressure becomes too heavy for them to handle and that is when everything goes downhill. For a child moving to a new school means starting everything over. Making friends, getting a good reputation, getting to know the stories that are circling around. But it isn’t always all fun and games, no matter the age of the child. Sometimes, the other children aren’t as welcoming as you expect them to be. When that is the case, the new kid usually becomes the outcast. There are some things you can do to prevent this from happening and help your child adjust to a new school.
Choose a New School Wisely
It all starts with the school you choose for your child to go to. There are a lot of things you have to get to know about the school before you enroll your child. Our suggestion is that you go to school you are interested in if possible. Talk to the teachers, the staff. Listen to what the kids are talking about in the school hallways. Try to see if your child would fit there and would your child enjoy spending time in that environment. If the answer to at least one of the two questions is no then you should keep searching. You know your child best, and the decision you make will certainly affect their whole life.
Talk to Your Child about it openly in order to Adjust to a New School Faster
A mistake people tend to make keeps this a secret from their child until a certain moment comes. And keeping this a secret for too long, or at all, will just make your child even more anxious and nervous as it won’t have enough time to prepare mentally. The best thing you can do is involve your child in the school-picking process. This way, your child will have its own opinion and sometimes our children know what’s best for them. And it will be much easier for your child to adjust to a new school if he/she had a vote when you were choosing a new school.
Try to get your child involved in the school-picking process. alt – mom and daughter
Staying Positive is Important
The first day in the new school is always stressful. That is when all the eyes are pointed towards your child because he/she is new to the school, new to the neighborhood. This is when your child starts to feel more and more anxious and if the first day goes bad, the rest will be worse. At least that is what children usually think but it’s tough to explain that it’s not like that. That’s why staying positive on the first day of school is important. If both you and your child are feeling fine, everything will be fine. It’s very important to start that day early and nicely. Go to bed earlier the night before because you might not be able to get much sleep that night. And it’s very important to be well-rested that day. Start your day with a nice breakfast and eat it together. Make sure you prepare what your child will wear in advance so if you happen to have any mishaps, at least you did this ahead.
Having a nice early breakfast will help you stay positive. alt – girl eating bread
Go Through it All Before the First Day Arrives
It’s bad to leave everything for your child to figure out on the first day. A week or two before the school starts is when you need to start getting your child familiar with a new school. This will help your child adjust to a new school and new people in the school. This means you have to walk to the school with them using the route you’ve decided on at least three times so your child remembers it better. Or if you decided to have the school bus take your child to school, you should walk them to their bus stop a few times if it’s somewhere in the neighborhood.
Make sure your child is familiar with it’s going to school route. alt – schoolbus
When the first day comes, try to take your child to his/her school ahead of time and help him/her find the classroom that it’s going to be in. Make sure the teacher is already familiar with your child as a new student in her class. And if possible, have your child meet the teacher before the first lesson starts.
Have Fun After School
No matter how good or bad your child’s day went, having fun after school that day is very important. This will leave this day with a nice or a much nicer memory to look back on one day. So you can:
- walk together
- watch a movie
- order takeout
- have a game night.
Whatever you and your child love to do together, this is a perfect time to do so. Don’t forget to ask your child and the teacher about how the first day went and hopefully nobody had any issues. And if there are any, you have to talk to your child about it and explain that everything will be alright and that it’s just the first day. Things usually improve after the first day of school.